30 Weeks of Kink: Week #19 – 5/11/2017

Week 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?

I’m not much of a “people person,” but the kink community took me under their wing as soon as I showed up. Yes, I do more in writing than anything else, but the support is always there. I love writing BDSM/kink because I enjoy the connections between the characters and the freedom to explore it provides.

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30 Weeks of Kink: Week #18 – 5/4/2017

Week 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?

Most of my kink pet peeves are book related. Every time I read “I can tell you’re a natural submissive” or “I know what you need,” I cringe. No matter how good a person is and how much experience they have, there’s no way they can validate these two statements without talking to the submissive.

BDSM is all about negotiation no matter how unsexy like that sounds. After you have all the cards lined up, then you can decide who takes control and how to proceed. Even if it sounds less erotic.

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30 Weeks of Kink: Week #17 – 4/27/2017

Week 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

I’d love for people to acknowledge that kink is more than sex. Yes, as anything, it could be a way to get off, but there’s a degree of trust that isn’t found in many vanilla relationships.

Also, you don’t have to be an abuser or a victim of abuse to enjoy kink. There are always bad apples, but as consenting adults, we can make informed decisions about what we enjoy, what we are willing to try, and with whom.

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30 Weeks of Kink: Week #16 – 4/20/2017

Week 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

Misconceptions. With the rise in popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey, everyone seems to be an expert in the matter. Making it hard to find those really interesting in the lifestyle for more than a cute scene.  At the same time, this increases intolerance and the need for secretively.

And don’t let me get started on having kids in the house. 🙂

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30 Weeks of Kink: Week #15 – 4/13/2017

Week 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

There are two kinks that are pretty constant in my stories. Voyeurism & Exhibitionism. Always on a controlled environment and letting the sub imagination play against them.

I think, most people have had thoughts about this, with and without the BDSM elements. The harder part is finding a willing, trustworthy partner and an audience. And deciding if that audience would be part of it. Perhaps, one of the reasons BDSM clubs had become so appealing, in writing and real life.

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